Having to force feed your lizard and how frequently should you do it.?

I know it can be dangerous and I shouldn't talk about it but a week past and we were worried about my baby Savannah monitor and it's attitude towards food. So we kind of force feed it a cricket, I felt this does harm but also does well think about it. If you can open it's mouth and put food down it, without it biting you or biting you hard since it's a baby it will get used to you when it's older and know your smell and how it differs to food. Possible hand feeding in the future I hope, IDK cause I want it to be happy and natural but it's also a pet and I need to keep it alive in order to enjoy it obviously no one likes a dead lizard. Is this harsh of me, also I am a new sav owner I have had pets before in the past. Several dogs,birds, and reptiles overall pets are taking care of by my family and I and we treat our pets well, we had a dog live with us for 12 years, A bird for idk how long maybe 5-6 years, several reptiles and my brother works in a lab in his school and knows about reptiles and we have had them in the past. I thought having a sav would be easier since I am not a beginner but after being out of the reptile game for so long one can only cling on to what they knew before. I had chinese water dragons and iguanas who would run after crickets and they are softies in my book. Why doesn't my sav want to eat well??? and how many times should I force feed it, Weekly??? also may this be the cause of it not eating cause I move it from tank to tank, three times and didn't have all the money on the spot just for him and his lighting, things to keep him healthy at the time and occasionally handle it so it can be tame??? So many questions, as to why it doesn't have a good appetite and why it doesn't gorge itself like many other healthy sav's I have seen on youtube, friends, ect.